I've seen you write multiple times on this topic, and I keep feeling like I'm not understanding your point.
To wit, It seems like there's no getting around the fact that women are still expected to be the primary caregivers for children, regardless of our own career ambitions and no matter what lip service is paid to gender equality.
So, sure, let's assert (it's probably not too far off) that I think that a child's primary caregiver should be the mother rather than the father.
Okay, by simply saying that, I realize I am putting pressure on any couple who reads this that they should do as I say. Normally, however, I keep such opinions to myself, because I think it's pretty bogus for me to tell other couples how to internally prioritize.
Given that I normally keep such opinions to myself, I don't see what the problem is. Each couple needs to make a decision, and after deciding, one person in the couple makes the career sacrifice to raise the children.
Now, if the study had said, "the women who had children but whose partners raised the children were paid less than men in similar situations", then that would be wrong -- but I don't see that.
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Date: 2007-05-02 02:08 pm (UTC)To wit,
It seems like there's no getting around the fact that women are still expected to be the primary caregivers for children, regardless of our own career ambitions and no matter what lip service is paid to gender equality.
So, sure, let's assert (it's probably not too far off) that I think that a child's primary caregiver should be the mother rather than the father.
Okay, by simply saying that, I realize I am putting pressure on any couple who reads this that they should do as I say. Normally, however, I keep such opinions to myself, because I think it's pretty bogus for me to tell other couples how to internally prioritize.
Given that I normally keep such opinions to myself, I don't see what the problem is. Each couple needs to make a decision, and after deciding, one person in the couple makes the career sacrifice to raise the children.
Now, if the study had said, "the women who had children but whose partners raised the children were paid less than men in similar situations", then that would be wrong -- but I don't see that.