School Boys
Jan. 26th, 2006 10:20 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
astra_nomerSo, apparently, a student at a New England high school is claiming gender discrimination. The interesting thing is, the student is a boy. A white, middle-class male, suing for discrimination.
Certainly it's true that more women are entering college these days than men. But shouldn't we be saying, "You Go Girl!" instead of "ZOMG!! Save the boys!!!"
I cannot believe that education has changed so dramatically in this country over the last 10 or even 20 years that it's suddenly become biased toward girls. The educational system in this country was originally just for white males. Just 40 years ago, Harvard University did not allow women in some of its libraries. At the same time, the majority of elementary school teachers over the last century or more have been women, and while I won't rant about that issue now, it didn't seem to have hurt the legions of boys who were educated by them and went on to become successful men within the patriarchy.
Yes, it's true that boys have more behavioral issues than girls, and that will affect their educational opportunities. But is this really more of an issue today than in the past? Has boyhood really changed that much?
I recall being one of just a handful of girls in my high school science and math classes. I recall that when my calculus teacher handed out M&Ms to highest achievers in her class, that my candy was sometimes stolen when I turned my back, and at least one student complained that the girls always got the awards, even though we were vastly outnumbered by the boys.
Now I'm the mother of two boys myself. But I expect them to exert self-discipline in school. I expect them to do their best with their studies. I will help find opportunities within the educational system for them to get ahead. I will not tolerate them making excuses for themselves by saying they were discriminated against. If I've managed to succeed against the odds, they can too.
Certainly it's true that more women are entering college these days than men. But shouldn't we be saying, "You Go Girl!" instead of "ZOMG!! Save the boys!!!"
I cannot believe that education has changed so dramatically in this country over the last 10 or even 20 years that it's suddenly become biased toward girls. The educational system in this country was originally just for white males. Just 40 years ago, Harvard University did not allow women in some of its libraries. At the same time, the majority of elementary school teachers over the last century or more have been women, and while I won't rant about that issue now, it didn't seem to have hurt the legions of boys who were educated by them and went on to become successful men within the patriarchy.
Yes, it's true that boys have more behavioral issues than girls, and that will affect their educational opportunities. But is this really more of an issue today than in the past? Has boyhood really changed that much?
I recall being one of just a handful of girls in my high school science and math classes. I recall that when my calculus teacher handed out M&Ms to highest achievers in her class, that my candy was sometimes stolen when I turned my back, and at least one student complained that the girls always got the awards, even though we were vastly outnumbered by the boys.
Now I'm the mother of two boys myself. But I expect them to exert self-discipline in school. I expect them to do their best with their studies. I will help find opportunities within the educational system for them to get ahead. I will not tolerate them making excuses for themselves by saying they were discriminated against. If I've managed to succeed against the odds, they can too.
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Date: 2006-01-26 06:59 pm (UTC)Hrm.
Guess I am an outlier.
I can live with that. :-)
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Date: 2006-01-26 08:41 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-01-26 11:02 pm (UTC)(Not for as long as
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Date: 2006-01-27 01:42 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-01-27 02:59 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-01-27 02:38 pm (UTC)The funny part was when the toy baby bottle went missing for a while, DS1 decided that he'd just have to nurse the baby doll until we found it again. :)
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Date: 2006-01-27 05:16 pm (UTC)my brother had a friend who had a few barbies as a kid, but he was also really into war games and so on, so I don't think it was very obvious to his male friends, at least, outside of my brother and maybe a few other nice kids from our school. Since we moved before they hit puberty, I really hope this friend didn't get beaten up or go seriously macho later on. I mean, the social pressure to "be a man" is kind of frightening and, well, I'm glad I get to be a tomboyish girl- it's still pretty socially unnacceptable to hit a girl, even if she is athletic.
I think in general, I'm used to people outside of my family being really macho about their sons and trying to make sure they "grow up to be men" and so on. (I tend to assume that my family is just weird because, well, we kinda are- the most macho male creature in my generation crossdressed some as a kid ;9 )
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Date: 2006-01-28 05:23 am (UTC)He has finally given up the idea of gesgating himself, but he is still planning on parenting one day.
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Date: 2006-01-27 02:58 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-01-27 01:39 am (UTC)You are now my Hero of the Week. :)
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Date: 2006-01-27 03:52 am (UTC)"William's grandma arrived one day
And wanted to know what he liked to play
And Bill said: 'Baseball's my favorite game,
I like to play, but all the same,
I'd give my bat and ball and glove
To have a doll that I could love...'
(William wants a do--ol...)"